Most of us, some more than others, are stuck under the restraints of psychological time and ego.
We need to use clock time, not psychological time. Psychological time is the desire to seek fulfillment in life in the future in an attempt to escape the past. The problem in doing that is that we forget the present, we dwell on the past and don’t learn from it, therefore the future will just be a projection of the past as we haven’t changed anything about ourselves, and we completely miss the journey. We aren’t moving forward towards fulfillment, in fact just making it worse.
Clock time is using time to our advantage, we set goals for the future, and we learn from the mistakes of our past and fix them. We can rectify those mistakes in the NOW, and work towards future goals by focusing on what we can do NOW. We begin to enjoy the journey of rectification and action to achieve a goal. We are then free from the shackles of psychological time.
Death of ego comes through a realization that we need to do what will benefit us, we stop worrying about what others think of us. People pleasing and impressing stops and the expectations of others on us diminish as these expectations aren’t really of our interest, it is a form of people pleasing. It’s easier said than done of course. It starts with acceptance of who you really are, not what your mind says who you are, but what your heart and soul say. The mind is a tool that should only be used when required, it can be full of ego and toxicity that can completely arrest your soul if left unchecked. You are your soul, not your mind. If you can accept who you are, there is no desire to gain the acceptance of others, ego falls flat on its face. You are happy with who you are. We never really are happy when we live a life that is conducted by the expectations of others.
Through the death of ego and psychological time, we are able to have a true spiritual awakening as we are in touch with our soul, it’s connected to what is going on in the present moment, and we can appreciate everything that comes with the journey, even the small things like the trees and birds. We even begin to appreciate the problems that arise as a part of the journey, we stop seeing them as negative parts of life, rather we see those problems as a chance for growth, and we can take action or rectify a mistake that the problem arose from. It’s just part of life in the present, or life on life’s terms.